Mother talent...

posted on: Wednesday, 23 May 2012

I stumbled into motherhood young. I was just 26 and my career was not that established. Growing up there was always a need to define and go after 'a career'...as if obtaining a career was the single most important thing. As a post-grad I started working for a publishing house, for me: English Literature degree = books = publishing.

Nicole Kidman in Harpers Bazaar
Of course, three years in publishing taught me that a love of books did not a career make. So, I was seduced by the corporate dollar and here I am fifteen years later, an employment law expert with a multi-national company, and a beauty product entrepreneur in the making. From career to motherhood I stumbled, with the arrival of babies came the demise of the career-hungry, ladder-climbing powerhouse that I was. There was compromise. And I am fine with that; I was lucky enough to work for a company who knew all about converting powerhouses in to part time powerhouses and so I became another version of myself; part time. Partly there.

There will be many parallels to my own career story. I always suspected that the school grounds, which I frequent every day, were full of women who similarly pursued a career and then adjusted it and moulded it to the parameters of motherhood. I was right...

With the launch of L'Apothecary, all of a sudden every mother I speak to and tell about it has some amazing, relevant career experience that they can share with me. It's so heartening to speak to women who have achieved so much and who have made important decisions along the way. Like decisions to step away from the corporate climb, or to move out of the city, or to give up one thing or another for some greater good of their family.

Maybe it's something about career and motherhood that gives a fullness of opinion and thought to women?

What I have learnt is that you can never judge from a mother at the school gates what her past consisted of. I admit I have been guilty in the past of making assumptions about people and now...well now, I renege on all of that. My little world, it turns out, is full of talented, vibrant women who have much to teach me. So whatever disadvantage I think I may have suffered by opting out of my precious career, I see was no disadvantage at all. That is what life perspective is all about...

Nicole Kidman is Harper's Bazaar

5 comments:

  1. Mothers are the cleverest, most capable, most lovely and most unselfish beings in the whole wide world Lou....have I not already told you that??!! LOL!!

    And motherhood = compromise....no two ways about it, I don't know anyone - working or "stay-at-home" who hasn't compromised in some way.

    And yes, those "playground" mothers have so much to offer. We all had a life/career/an array of talents & interests before we had children. Sometimes we get to go back to them....sometimes we don't. And sometimes, if we're lucky, new opportunities present themselves and we get to try something new. It's never boring ;)

    I'm really glad that during this last year has you've seen for yourself another side to the "playground mothers"....as you know, I'm one of them and we're not all bad LOL!! XX

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  2. Something like you can't judge a book by it's cover ~ right... Everyone has a story and sometimes we can learn from others life experiences and open a door into who they really are or what made them the way they are today. I love how your new venture has opened up so many things for you Lou ~ everything happens for a reason. xo

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  3. Growing up, I never really thought about what I wanted to do - except for; play netball for Australia haha.
    When I finished school, all I wanted to do was go and ski instruct and I did. My parents always said to me that I can do whatever I want to, they didn't care if I didn't go the traditional route of school, uni and job. I loved it.
    And it's led me to experience so much :) Living in London, Nottingham and now Cardiff. And it led me to starting my blog and now I have so many dreams. It's so exciting.
    But one thing I have alwayssssss wanted to be ever since I can remember - is be a MUM!! I just cannot WAIT to have babies. George and I talk about it all the time haha, we've got names picked and everything. Whenever a mum comes into Reiss with their tiny little baby I talk to them for hourssssss haha and play with the baby the whole time.
    Whether I am a playground mum or a mum with billions of exciting opportunities going on - I just can't wait to be one! It's so exciting having the option to be both though :)
    xxxxx

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  4. It all about finding balance in your own sweet way… Amanda

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  5. I really like this post. I know that as I hope to be able to choose motherhood, I need to accept that with that choice will come some changes with regard to my career and other aspects of my life. I think the more I hear from people who are further on from that point than my immediate peers (who are still in the early stages) the more I see that the options, even then are so varied and so interesting. Sometime life being unpredictable is a good thing. :)

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